Something has happened in the last month or so- I got HUGE. I just finished my typical Sunday-figuring-out-what-to-wear-all-week project, and I discovered that a lot of the maternity clothes I had worn just won't cut it now. Either there isn't enough chest space (just how big are those going to get anyway???), or the shirts are too short to adequately cover my belly. I removed those shirts and a few pants from my closet, and now the closet is pitifully sparse. My few non-maternity shirts that I was able to wear somewhat recently also are a little laughable now. Crap and oh my gosh- how the heck am I going to make it to March???
Now that I'm 25 weeks, I've also had an impending sense of needing to get every last little thing done and ready. I always have in the back of my mind that a student I had last year (a twin) was delivered at 27 weeks. That's only 2 weeks away from where I am at now. We don't have the room done (painted, curtains, OR all the furniture) , we don't have a diaper bag, we don't have a changing pad cover, we don't have enough newborn clothes to cover a boy and a girl... it is a long list of things left to be done.
Major setback today too: the plan to refinish the changing table and dresser I had as a baby is no longer. After working on it for a while today, my husband concluded that is isn't possible to fix the tracks of the drawers. Now we have to find a white changing table/dresser for the room. I'm disappointed to say the least. I'm also disappointed that we could have picked different cribs in a non-white color if we knew what we know now. But it is too late to disassemble both cribs and return them. What can I do though? It is what it is- and white is what the furniture will be.
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Oh honey, I feel your pain! Just about every shirt I have I now call "tummy shirts". I have been going the legging and sweater tunic route lately - way easier than pulling your top down for coverage all of the time! Plus it's cute with uggs and it's all stretchy so it fits :)
My mom called me today cuz I had a not-ready-meltdown and she assured me that we would have everything by the time the babies get here. You aren't alone in your worries, trust me!
Take a deep breath and relax. You have been quite busy. And it will all get done in time!
I can't give you any advice on the clothing woes as I have never been in that situation. But I am sure you will think of something to cover your belly!
The belly pics are cute!
Had a meltdown session with my hubby dear 2 nights ago thinking we have nothing done. We bought a car and have pretty much cleared out all the clutter and reorganized/rearranged all that had to be! My registry is almost ready, but honestly I haven't purchased anything other than baby clothes! I forsee a panic button (in the near future) when I am just going to go on a spree not thinking how much I am spending!
Ahh, I know it's so overwhelming when you think of everything that needs to be done and you feel like time is just ticking away (and I imagine there's extra pressure with twins since they typically come early!). You'll get it done, though. I can't believe you're 25 weeks-- time really flies.
OK - realism here. IF (God forbid) you were to have these babies soon, it won't matter that you don't have all that stuff for them, because they'll be in the NICU for a couple months anyhow. And newborn clothes would be too big! As long as they have a place to sleep when you bring them home and you can feed them somehow, that'll be all you really need. And carseats to get them home.
Really, you've got a minimum of about 8-10 weeks to go before they'll likely be at home with you.
I know all that makes sense logically- BUT who's going to have time to buy all that other stuff when visiting (practically living at) the NICU for weeks? AND are we really going to have time/energy/free hands to get the other stuff in 8-10 weeks if we have two newborns at home? I'm not particularly fond of the idea of dragging premature newborns out in the frigid midwest winter to go buy bottles/clothes/diapers/etc. So for me, bottom line is that everything must be prepared ahead of time, because the survivial period of taking care of twin newborns (without any family nearby to help) is going to be insane enough for us.
From what so many other first time moms have told me, don't be shy about asking for help. I too have no family near me so I have to rely on help from friends if I need it. Even my sister told me that she was able to get her friends to help out by making freezable dinners so she wouldn't have to cook.
I have this thing where I just don't ask for help, but I know I will need to get over it and get what I can. You'd be surprised at how much people are willing to offer just to get a glimpse of your precious babies :)
I am only pregnant with one and I to have the impending sense of hurry up!!!!!! It feels like nothing is done!
Hang in there!
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