I think a point I failed to make in my last post was that they are obviously ready for some of the things if they are not in high chairs, drinking out of regular cups full time, and using blankets at daycare successfully. I am facing a conflict because I am not ready for some of those things.
We're making progress though. We started letting Sam and Anna have blankets in their cribs in addition to their sleep sacks. They've used blankets at daycare for a long, long time. My fear was that they'd be an additional thing to throw out and thus cry about wanting back in their cribs. (We still cannot go in their rooms after bedtime without disastrous effects- like hours of being awake when they should be sleeping.) Positives: They are going to sleep faster and Anna hasn't woken up with her pacifier in her mouth since the blanketing began. Is this going to be the key to get rid of that thing??? Negatives: Anna has been a HUGE grump in the mornings, because she doesn't want to leave her more cozy crib (and blanket) behind. Apparently she tantrumed from 7:30 - 9 am yesterday at daycare because she wanted her damn blanket that was still at home.
I also decided although I do not want to potty train yet, I will not hold them back if they want to sit on the toilet. And sit they want to do. Anna was on that thing 3 times in an hour last night... and after grunting... actually produced some poo in the big toilet. I guess it is time to start researching potty training... with twins. I'd like to forgo potty seats, but what's the logistics of twins and big toilets? How on earth is that going to work?
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Hey- I thought about your last post a lot,and while I am no expert, I realized -in my opinion- being Momma often means holding our kids back for the good of our family...even if it's only ourselves that isn't ready. Sure, it could be deemed selfish, and at times it may be just that...but other times it's knowing what is best for the family as a whole unit.
As I said before, my kids still sleep with binks. Do they NEED them? Probably not...although they are pretty attached. I could probably ween them if I really wanted, knowing it would be a lot of hard nights. And my family isn't ready for hard nights right now. Dave and I have both started new jobs and our family is learning a new routine. We ALL need good sleep right now. And what's best for Luke and Abbey right now is a well rested Momma.
And I'd like to see it as going both ways. Last night the kid's helped me unload groceries. That took sweet FOREVER. I put the bags on the floor, and they handed me items to put away. They love to be helpful, and I love to allow them to feel apart of the family in that way. But it held me back FOR SURE. It took 4x as long that way.
I don't know if there's much weight to what I'm spinning here, but it's a perspective I'm trying to take. We all hold each other back sometimes, for one reason or another, but (most often) for the good of the family as a whole.
I can totally relate to this post! Before my son was born I thought I'd want him to be advanced in everything. Even though that's still true in many ways, I still enjoy seeing him as a baby and will chose to hold his bottle and delay the complete transition to sippy cups. He's 1!
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